Hey girlfriend!

My friends call me Q

Financially broke, physically weak, and socially isolated—that was my reality when my divorce was finalized in January 2021.

I was proud of myself for finally ending the marriage, but I was also completely lost about how to heal from the past and create the future I wanted for myself and my six children still at home.

Sidenote: I have nine children with my ex-husband (yes, nine—same father, no twins, all within 15 years). One passed away in 2003, and two were already out of the house by 2021, so I only had six minor children at the time.

Support groups for divorced women often seemed stuck in a cycle of blame, grief, and anger, focused on the past.

While I understood the need for those groups, I had already grieved my marriage for years while I was still in it.

I was ready to move forward.

Less than a year before my divorce, I became a certified life coach. Post-divorce, I turned myself into my best client, transforming my stories, embracing my shadows, and creating tools to change how life flowed through me.

- I built an incredibly strong and healthy body, falling deeply in love with the sensuality of life through my physical senses.
(Yes, I lost 80 pounds but what I gained is so much more; it's not my favorite part of my glow-up even though it's the most noticeable.)
- I cultivated deep relationships with friends, lovers, and members of my new community.
(I leaned into my social anxiety and found the tools to help me feel safe in these new adventures.)
- I created a thriving coaching business that supports my family.
(I've faced my fears, patiently learned new tools, and supported my nervous system through the journey.)

To be honest, it wasn't all just me digging into some latent superpower discipline - I also hired help. I found that even when I knew what to do, I wasn't doing it. SOOO frustrating!

I was strong & capable AND I needed help.

I hired coaches and mentors to help me with

clarity, consistency, and constraint.

Without accountability, I wasn't making progress even though I desperately wanted to change.

WITH accountability and structure, my glow-up took off!

It wasn't easy, but compared to my marriage and divorce, it wasn't as hard as I thought it would be. Now, I get to live this life and share the path with others who seek growth, depth, and peace in their journey.